Updated: Jul 17, 2018
In the movies, there's always a villain and there's always a victim. And unless you have a sadistic streak inside of you, you will always find compassion for the victim. It's called the under-dog syndrome. When the weak one is being preyed on by the strong one the natural thing to do is to defend the weak one. And THIS is why we love playing the victim role in our own stories. Every one of us have been hurt or maligned or violated by someone else. Someone we trusted. Someone with whom we allowed ourselves to become vulnerable. They were the villain and we were the victim. And as long as we stay in that victim role we can continue to solicit the sympathy of our family and friends. We can continue to point the blame of our behaviors to the one who hurt us. If we stay the victim we don't have to change, but everyone else does.
There's a major problem with choosing to stay in the victim role. You'll never get to experience a victory over the villain who hurt you. Choosing to stay the victim is making a choice to continue giving power to the villain. You're declaring that you're not worth the victory. But I know better than that and so do you. At some point you're going to have to stand in front of the mirror and take responsibility for your behaviors, regardless of what has been done to you. It's time to move on. It's time to step into the victory that belongs to you. You're worth it. And you definitely deserve it.